5 REASONS NOT TO LEAVE BABY
A baby is crying: it’s his way of saying he’s very hungry, wet, needs a hug, anyway, that something is wrong. Even if it’s normal, that’s not necessarily a reason to let him cry. Here are 5 good reasons to put in all hands (and to draw when mom-in-law tells us we’re going to make a capricious one if we hit it).
- NO, IT DOESN ’ T MAKE HIS LUNGS
An urban legend wants that by letting his baby cry, it makes him “his lungs”. Research carried out in the late 70 s actually shows that letting him cry dangerously increases his heart rate and reduces his oxygen rate in the blood. Worst: without response from the parent, our child’s brain is full of cortisol, stress hormone, where a comforting hug produces a wave of oxytocin, happiness hormone.
- ANSWER HIS crying THE assure
Better: this will save him later from being an anxious adult. Yeah, just that. Let’s imagine for a moment calling our parents because we’re not doing well. We cry, we cry but no one comes. Day after day, with the time that goes by, we end up keeping quiet and telling ourselves that we can’t count on our parents… Not responding to crying leads to real psychological and physiological distress.
- “WE DON ’ T LEAVE BABY IN A CORNER”
We can transpose the situation with an adult: we would let your best friend cry alone and sad in a corner? Really? So why do it with our baby? Even if crying is hard to handle sometimes (often? ), babies don’t have the ability to calm down alone… They need us!
- REASSURANCE NOW THE INDEPENDENT HEADING LATER
A baby who cries and finds comfort in his parent s’ arms does not become a bully as you can think or a manipulation. No, it will make him more… independent! Reassured and secure from an emotional point of view, he will be more confident to face life.
- GIVE HIM THE RIGHT TO EXPRESS HIS Emotions
Stop baby crying, apart from relieving our ears, it’s not very beneficial. When you hug him to answer his crying, he may still continue to cry: he needs to express his emotion a little more and welcome him fully. Besides, it feels good not to cry a good shot even when you’re grown up? Don’t worry, then. And patience: a baby who was babied before his 1 year will cry less than the others from that age.