And m sorry for this off topic but this z the group where the doctor society exixt and I think nobody can understand a passion of a doctor of other profession even family and relatives
I became little late in my preparation due to some personal issues, I started preparation from December so even not completed 4 months and my target is to get a seat this year, m really doing hardwork, giving my 100% but I am 28 year old so everyone is telling to my parents that i should get engaged than do mrg after exam n even my parents are telling me this but I don’t want any distraction for study…but how I tackle this problem, it iz my bad destiny that i became late but everyone knows in society that why this 3 yr gap came in my even than nobody supporting me…forcing me to atleast get engaged even they have searched a guy for me but it’s not as easy after getting into relationship specially for girls and my passion towards medical field is so strong that i don’t want to quit bcz of that stupid mrg issue
When I tell that atleast wait for my selection, everyone starts to telling me that I m 28 yr old and this is very big issue if u turn out 29 or 30…me kya krun
Ab me kya krun badi hogai toh but mujhe pg select hone k phle relationship me nhi pdna aur isse phle mene preparation nhi ki but m very confident that I can crack till December
Pls help doctors
Classical Dilemma for all lady Doctors… There is no hard and fast rule for life stages… You can get married, then study or vice-versa.There are examples in both who have done successfully.
The priority should be what you are comfortable with…In my personal opinion, A medical PG can be done at any age, and you can become a specialist at any point of time… But,we know as doctors, there are some advantages in starting a family life at the recommended age( medical reasons!) Make an logical choice rather than an emotional choice…(purely my personal opinion)
But girl’s life is difficult after mrg, responsibilities n all and wt if the guy will not support me for my career?
You can fall in love during pg life and marry after that
Its first about marriage…then u will be expected to stay where they want u too…and then when u tell them that please lemme prepare…they will tell u…"biological clock is ticking…lets have a baby first…u can sit n study… nobody will disturb u then…u give in n for nine months u will be puking and feeling breathless… trying to cope up wd Ur Changing body n raging hormones…and hence next neet GONE…u will be on table getting ur baby out…then for six months u will nurse that kid n bubble wd maternal emotions…and when. U start preparing again…ur husband will want to have a coffee or lunch…ur MIL wud want u to join for a puja at home .and ur evergreen crying baby by ur side…two attempts at neet gone…so d Passion wudnt die…but u will feel like a mad person seeing ur dreams getting d least priority…when it shud have been d first…or
the other option being fighting for Ur passion n putting marriage on d back burner… showing a little more courage than u have right now n tell Ur parents firmly that i wud get married…on my terms ,… at my time…wd ur guy…but let me follow my dreams first …bcz nothing is as important as this one…
Lady, if u don’t fight for what u want today…u will always regret it later…so many girls r getting married late…get inspired by them right now…bcz tomorrow u wont have d privilege to turn back time and have a commitment free bachelorhood 
P.s. there r always exceptions where in laws n husband support n girls shine…but well look around for sometime n see how many of them r there… numbers shud let u decide it for urself.
Thanks alot…only a girl can understand these situations, these r exactly what I was thinking that’s why I don’t wnt to even engage now…yep I will tell to my parents that pls atleast give me time to make my career and m sure they will get little tensed but I can’t do anything for this…
see this truth of every single girl who want to achieve her dream…
When you’ll be married,you’ll have to listen to your in laws Nd family as well… Nd in our Indian society, they ll force u to have a baby asap. Nd your career would be ruined by yourself only becoz u won’t be able handle all the things on ur own.Just tell your parents to wait for year or 9mpnths till u finish ur neet(max to max next neet) Nd promise them that this will be your last try.nd then you’ll get married to whoever they say to.(I know with hard work,you’ll crack this neet. But you’ll have to work really hard Nd be true to yourself.) just go for it,girl! You can do this!
Focus on your career. Few more months not gonna make a big difference. Give neet and then decide about marriage. God forbid if things don’t work out, you’ll always have your education and your ability to sustain yourself to fall back on.
Dont fight with your parents… listen peacefully when they are talking… aur sahi ladka aise hi nhi mil jata… june dnb is near… focus… and baki sab bhagvan pe chod do.
Run away to lib maam…don’t stay at home…let Ur parents proceed…it’ll nyways take them a yr…Nd in the rare event they find a guy soon, tell him clearly that mrg nly after neet… no texting him/ calling him from lib…u shud do that nly after coming home…u need emotional support as well during prep Nd if Ur fiance can help then its great rite…make it win - win. But promise urself that ull not get distracted…try to enter into group study wid someone so that they can keep u on track… nyways it’s just a personal opinion ma’am - this is what I wud have done but neither me nor my mom found any guy for me, both of us were too lazy for it🤣 but girls can manage nythin Nd everything thrown at them Nd change it to win win. And if u really want something u will definitely get it. All the best ma’am!
study because when u fell in trap of this marriage . u ll never come out and ur carrier will be ruined . so help urself
Best way is to join govt rural service and get eligible for in service quota…get ur dream branch in dream college and do pg …maary during your service period because then minimal preparation will get u good seat…
Practical advice…as age is vital issue for girl
I had the same problem.
What did i do… I play the villain card.
U only have marriage problem… I jave marriage + UG strict bond, jiske notice ghar pr aa rahe hain.
When they didnt get convinvced by saam daam dand bhed…
I plaued villian card, 1st i emptionally blackmailed them ni maane… I threatened them bhaag kr intercaste marriage karunga.Agar jyada natak kiya. Let me study. Ultimately i told them i m homosexual. I m serious. I told them pdh leta hu nd tt le leta hu, i m doctor i know.
I left my home.
Or jo chutiya bol rha h age is isuue for girls… Show them middle fingers…of both hand.
U r at the age that u have to choose carrier or shadi ka chutiyapa. Or shadi krli to 1 saal ko prep to gyi…
#notomarriageIfYouwantTosaveYourass
Just give 1yr try… Bol do 29yrs ki ho jaungi tb kar lungi. Prepare for mau aiims, jipmer, nov aiims. Kisi mei b selection ho sakta h yr if u have started preparing.
Although i need a lot different kind of motivation
It’s never too late neither for marriage nor for a pg prepr…i hv seen girls even in non medico unmarried till 30 yrs just because they don’t get the right guy to tie a knot or sometimes for their education…so it’s all about ur wish n what u want…ppl will come say smthng n go but at d end its u who will suffer n regret just bcoz u compromised…so do what u want n focus on it